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Teenager Smartphone Agreement

 

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Caleb, my twelve year old son, wants a smartphone.  Last week, I spent an hour talking to him about why he wants a smart phone and also about my concerns.  It was a long negotiation about what we both want and how we can both get what we want.  At the end of the day, he feels like his peers are getting phones and he would also like one.  I am concerned because I have seen smartphones suck the life out of our youth.  They can be addictive distractions that keep our young people from learning value skills, showing social courtesy to people, and pursue worthwhile endeavors.  I see it in the malls, in restaurants, at church, at school.  Disengaged teenagers (and adults) absorbed and distracted by their phone.  I am also aware of the vast number of young men and husbands addicted to pornography because of the ease of accessibility that a smart phone offers.

The conclusion of our conversation was that he will get a smart phone.  But, we will have a teenager smartphone agreement.  We will have some expectations of him, and as long as he is fulfilling those expectations, there is no problem.    We will meet after a month and discuss how things are going.  Then, we will meet after 3 months and discuss again.  The fact is, he will eventually have to learn to use technology responsibly at some point.  Our responsibility as parents is to do what we can to give guidance in the transition.

I spent an evening writing down my thoughts and expectations in a list.  We got a phone for him, and as we handed it over, we went over each point in the list, discussed, and came to an agreement.  We use a service called Accountable2You that monitors every website visited, application used, and time spent.  (I am not affiliated with this company other than that I am a customer.)  We have an appointment to discuss in a month and we’ll see where we are at.

Here is our list of expectations. 

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  • Less than 10 hours of web browsing per week.  Exception for school work. 
  • Less than 20 YouTube videos per week for entertainment.  School related or educational subjects are exceptions.   Educational subjects should be agreed upon beforehand.
  • No games on the phone.
  • No games on the laptop.  (We have an Xbox, tablet, and a dedicated computer for gaming which happens on Friday nights.)
  • Phone should be put away and charging at 8:15pm.
  • Productivity apps are OK to install.  No need to ask.
  • Entertainment apps are not OK.   Exceptions should be discussed.
  • Phone should never be a distraction at church including boy scouts.  It should only be out for scriptures/church content, taking relevant notes, or scheduling.
  • Listening to music is OK.  Will check content periodically.  You should avoid music with cursing or inappropriate content.
  • Piano should be practiced at least 5 days per week.
  • Should be socially engaged with people. Should always politely greet people and say goodbye.  Should never ignore people because you are absorbed in electronics. 
  • Should stay for dinner and provide engaging conversation.  Should never leave the dinner table early to entertain yourself on electronics.
  • Grades should be straight As.  
  • Should treat your brother (and all family members) with kindness, even if you feel they are not being nice or fair. 
  • Should always be grateful for all you have.  Even when things are taken away temporarily.
  • Should help out with household chores without complaint or snide remarks.  Bonus for great attitude.  Double bonus for offering to help.
  • Talk to your friends and acquaintances by phone as much as you can.  Become a great conversationalist.
  • Text with friends as much as you want.  But all texts are subject to review.   No deleting texts.  We want to discuss topics that may be interesting or controversial.
  • Do good things on your phone.  Everyday if possible.  Read the scriptures.  Listen to a church talk.  Send someone an encouraging message.   Record a journal entry.
  • All electronics in our home are public devices for everyone.   Nothing on any of them are private with the exception of confidential business or church material.   Do not try to hide any activity or do anything in secret on any electronic device.  All activity on all devices are monitored and reported on. 
  • The overall goal is for you to continue to grow up as an outstanding man who is continuing to develop valuable skills, gives of your time to worthy endeavors, and is kind and courteous to all around you.  If ever there is a concern that develops because of the use of electronic devices, we will discuss openly and try to address those concerns which may involve new guidelines.  This is a living document that will change over time.
  • We will review these policies at a regular frequency.  As you use electronics responsibly, the reviews will become less frequent.  We will discuss any areas of concerns and work out a remediation plan that we can both agree to.
  • Like anything else, the expectation is not perfection.  But we do expect you to try and improve with a good attitude.

 

As I was telling my sister about this big milestone in our family life, she told me that this is actually a common thing.  Her boss just gave a smartphone to their 10 year son and also put together a smartphone agreement.  Here is a screenshot of their agreement.  I thought it was very good and incorporated some items into our agreement. 

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2016 Hyun Family Christmas Letter

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Christmas Greetings! Another year has gone by, and we hope it has been a great one for you. It has been a busy one for the Hyun Family, and we wanted to share a few highlights of our year with you.

As is to be expected, our boys are growing and changing. Caleb is 12 years old for goodness sake! He got contact lenses and braces and is starting to become opinionated! He was quite passionate during election season this year and openly spewed his distaste for Trump’s antics. In the end, he is learning to accept the election results like the rest of the West Coasters. At church, he has received the Aaronic Priesthood and has gone on his first youth temple trip. He started middle school at Annie Wright and loves it. He ran for middle school student council as a class representative and was all ready for a hard campaign with a strategy to try and win the girl vote. But in the end, all the other candidates dropped out except for one other girl, so they were both automatically elected as the 6th grade representatives. He also learned to play the ukulele at school and recently played and sang a song in front of the entire Middle School. We are told by his advisor that he is also quite a dancer, but have yet to see his moves at home. Hopefully, he is picking up dance moves from mom (not dad). He played on the varsity soccer team at school as a defensive starter, and he’s the pianist for the middle school band. He can’t wait for Ultimate Frisbee to start in the Spring. Needless to say, he has catapulted himself into the middle school scene and is loving every minute of it.

Andrew was baptized in January. This year, Andrew started cub scouts, played on a basketball team, went to a golf camp, and played soccer. He is still quite a lady’s man and will gravitate to wherever the 3rd grade girls are. He is still the flavor of our family, and the flavor keeps getting stronger. Most of the time, the flavor is great and makes us smile and laugh. But sometimes, the flavor will invoke a lecture about proper behavior. When we were visiting our friend this year, Tom Mangle had prepared a Baby Back Rib dinner for us. Tom asked Andrew if he likes baby back ribs. Andrew answered that he likes Filet Mignon. This resulted in a lecture from dad about graciously eating whatever the host is providing. But, Tom cooked him up some Filet Mignon, and Don’s not sure if his lecture really sank in as Andrew gobbled up his Filet. With that said, Andrew is such a sweet kid. He is always writing love notes for family members and friends, and he gives the best hugs. He loves to have fun and enjoys life. He is a friend to all, and his smile is contagious.

Both of the boys have stopped formal piano lessons, and Don started teaching them at home to play popular music. We gave 3 family concerts this year, and we are like the Beatles of the Federal Way Assisted Living Home scene. Andrew has become an avid Michael Jackson fan and loves to play Michael Jackson music on the piano. At one of the assisted living homes, the residents started calling him Michael Jackson and requested that he learn the moonwalk for next time. If you’re interested, you can find Andrew playing the piano on Youtube. (He’s the first video if you search “Andrew eye of the tiger”). He is working on the moonwalk. Hopefully, we will be able to post a video of that soon.
Don and the boys have been all about robotics this year. Don ran a robotics club at church and taught a bunch of kids (and their dads) how to build a sumobot using a 3d printer, raspberry pi, and other electronics. The class culminated with a very exciting sumobot tournament where the robots competed against each other, trying to force their opponent outside of the circle. This is just step 1 in a multi-year plan of eventually trying to build an autonomous robot sailboat and sail it to Hawaii. As step 2, Caleb and Don both passed tests to receive their Amateur Radio License. As step 3, Caleb went to a sailing camp this summer. If you want to help build a robot sailboat (and most importantly travel to Maui to wait for it to arrive), just let us know.

We also went to Boston to go watch the famous 2.007 robot contest. The contest had an American Revolutionary War theme which was perfect because we also walked around the city on the Freedom Trail visiting Revolutionary War historic sites. While roaming around the halls at MIT, we got invited to see a bunch of Japanese students present their robots that competed in a reality TV robot competition. The boys even got to drive the robots. Then, we followed them into the biomimetic lab where we got to see a running demo of the MIT robot cheetah. Unfortunately, there were no robot antelopes around, so we didn’t get to see a kill.
Lastly, Don coached an FLL Lego Robotics team in the fall. Caleb and 5 other kids spent several hours every Thursday night for 3 months building and programming lego robots. Seconds before the team’s last run at the regional competition, our team was told that we had too many motors, and the referee took one of the motors. Without the motor plugged in, our robot was immobile! But, as the competition started, Caleb and the other boys quickly figured out a way to reconfigure the robot to still make it run. They ended up scoring enough points on that run to get first place out of 32 teams! It’s on to the semi-finals in January! Andrew was the special coach’s assistant and likes to take all the credit for the win. He’s looking forward to his own JrFLL team that mom has agreed to coach the beginning of next year.

In March, Don was called as Bishop of our local LDS congregation (Redondo Ward). It has been a big adjustment for the whole family as we’ve tried to figure out how to handle the time commitment. However, it has been a special blessing for our family to be involved in so many people’s lives. It has been amazing to have a front row seat to see the miracles and angels in our ward. Don is constantly inspired by the wonderful and faithful members of our congregation and their diligent service. There have been so many stories (big and small) of how God cares for each one of his children.

Tenille stays busy with homeschooling Andrew part-time in the mornings, (striving to) walk on the treadmill each day, being the PTSA treasurer at Andrew’s school, and always looking for ways to maximize our travel rewards so our family can enjoy vacations on the cheap. You could say she has a part-time job as our family’s travel agent with all the time she spends planning. A travel highlight for her this year was swimming with the stingrays near Grand Cayman Island when she joined her parents and siblings on a cruise. Don and the boys had to fend for themselves for a week. Thankfully, Don’s mom stepped in to help with running the show…..just one of the many benefits of living with mom.

Being a Bishop’s wife has forced Tenille to step out of her comfort zone. She made a goal to have every family in the ward over to our house for dinner. This results in the boys asking each Sunday, “Who’s coming over tonight?” She has gotten pretty bold and likes to try out new recipes when she invites guests. So far, no disasters…. yet. We have had the chance to have dinner with almost half of the congregation since March, and we’ve enjoyed getting to know the members of our ward and call them our friends.

Tenille is turning the big 4-0 in December this year. (Yikes!) We are celebrating by going to Las Vegas and watching the Beatles Love and Michael Jackson One Cirque du Soleil shows……all using travel reward points of course (with the exception of the MJ One show tickets). It’ll be worth paying hard cash for that show, though, if it helps Andrew get his moonwalk on.

We hope your year has been full of many blessings and that we will be able to share some time and laughs with you in the upcoming year ahead. We hope you are feeling the joy and the special spirit of the Christmas Season when we celebrate the greatest gift of all, Jesus Christ, who was given to us in a humble stable so that He may save us. Merry Christmas, and may your New Year be full of joy and light!

With Love, The Hyun Family – Don, Tenille, Caleb (12), and Andrew (8)

Father’s Day

A great father’s day weekend.  It has been a long time since I had nothing planned on a Saturday. 

I got to geek out and make a Raspberry Pi Home Security camera using MotionPie.

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I played some ping pong and pickleball with the family.

We sang some karaoke.

I finally helped my son, Andrew, make some progress on our home-made BB8.

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Took a few moments remember my dad.

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Piano Lessons

The rule in the Hyun home about Piano Lessons is that you can’t quit.  Ever… you can change piano teachers, but you can’t quit piano…  I’ve heard too many adults lament about how their “parents let them quit piano.”  Implied is that only if their parents would have had a little more fortitude and forced them to play, they would be great pianists today… but because of their weak-willed parents, they are not able to play piano…

Well, I decided long ago, my children will never accuse me of being weak-willed… at least not when it comes to learning the piano.  But the fact is learning to play the piano is VERY difficult, and there is a steep learning curve.   There is a long period where playing (practicing) may be very difficult.  And just like learning anything new (tennis, golf, programming, snowboarding, any musical instrument), you need to be able to power through the ugly part of the learning curve. 

Now, I’m not advocating “forcing” your children to do anything… but I do think it’s the parent’s responsibility to find a teacher that can ease the pain of climbing that learning curve by making it fun.  Frankly, that is a tremendous talent (whether it’s for piano, sports, or any other skill).

With this backdrop, we’ve gone through 5 piano teachers in the last 5 years.  Some moved.  Some had babies and stopped teaching.  Some were great and some were not. 

I don’t expect either of my kids to be entering any classical piano competitions or playing in crowded auditoriums.  I feel my hopes are modest.  I want my children to love playing the piano and singing songs they enjoy.  I hope they will be able to play some church hymns when they are needed.   I hope they can accompany their families on Monday nights for Family Home Evening.    I hope they can entertain some senior citizens in an assisted living home.  I hope they can pick up a guitar and lead a few songs around a campfire.

But, this can’t happen if you can’t get the kids to the bench.  If you can get the kids to the bench, then they will get better.  We’ve had a few teachers that loved the kids and catered to the music they enjoyed playing.  Our kids would naturally practice these songs that they liked.  We’ve also had a few classical piano teachers who were obsessed about technique and love to talk about how great of a teacher they were.  The problem is, they were not providing music or instruction that made our kids want to play the piano.  In the end, they were failing to connect our kids to the music.  The consequence was that both Caleb and Andrew found practicing the piano a chore and you heard less and less practicing.

We are in a bit of a break from piano teachers right now and I have taken over temporarily.  I say temporarily, because I am desperately looking for a great piano teacher that can relate our kids to music. 

When I was a kid, I honestly hated piano lessons until the 8th grade.  In the 8th grade, my mom found this high school kid that was teaching piano – Chris Halon.  He changed my world.  Until then, I was only taught classical music.  Chris asked me what songs I wanted to play.  Then, he showed me how to play them.  From that point on, I only played songs I heard on the radio.  It’s when I really started loving the piano.  I could hear a song on the radio, and he would show me how to play it.  It was awesome!

In this break between piano teachers, I’m taking the opportunity to show my kids what I learned from Chris.  My goal is just to keep them coming back to the bench.  I don’t think they are too far from learning everything I have to offer, so I want to find a piano teacher that can take them farther. 

However, it’s very difficult to find a piano teacher that’s willing to coach a student in the direction that the student wants to go.  I suppose it’s easy to tout some teaching methodology (like Suzuki method) or some educational credentials (like Juilliard)… But, I just want a teacher who has a group of students that are loving what they are playing…  I don’t care about where they went to school or what kind of method they are using.  Show me a recital full of kids that are loving their songs.  I’m a very interested customer.

In the meanwhile, I’m sitting down once a week with the kids and asking them to print out some tabs of their favorite songs from Ultimate Guitar.  There has certainly been an increase in piano pounding over the last few months.   And the playing has been “fun”.  I try to sneak in some theory and challenge them with various techniques as the songs require them.    I don’t really give them a hard time about correct technique or even correct notes.  I do try and emphasize keeping the rhythm steady.  The toughest thing about home instruction (without a teacher) is the discipline.  It’s so easy to skip a week.  Hopefully, we can keep it up until we find our next piano teacher.  

And I’ll admit it.  In our home, we “force” our kids to do piano.  I am completely unapologetic that we “force” our kids to develop all kinds of skills.  But in the end, the hope is they are going to love it.

 

Robots vs. Hornets

Andrew had a hard year this year with wasps and hornets.  He got stung 8 times on our camping trip to Mt. Rainier.  About a month later, we discovered a hornet’s nest at our house.  The kids were given explicit instructions not to play near the Hornet’s nest, but that’s like telling the wind not to blow.  Inevitably, Andrew was a victim of a hornet’s sting.  His leg swelled up big and purple, and we considered taking him to a doctor.

 

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We decided as a family, that it was time to take action.  We put on our engineering hats and devised a plan to take revenge on these hornets!   (from a safe distance.)  We decided to make a robot that could roll up to the Hornet’s nest and deploy a hornet’s nest destroying mechanism – all while capturing the havoc on video.  Caleb and I worked on a Lego Mindstorm robot that we could control remotely using the bluetooth on Tenille’s cell phone .  The robot could hold my cell phone and capture the action on video using skype video.  The plan was to sit in the safety of my Subaru Impreza as we rolled the Hornet’s nest destroying robot up to the nest and watched the destruction over skype.    Knowing how many of our plans actually work out as planned (the probability is pretty near 0%), I had plan B ready in the form of a Hornet Killer spray from Home Depot.

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We did a few test runs indoors.  The robot worked perfectly.  Skype video also worked well.  When we took the robot out in the field, there were a few complications.  My phone and the computer were at the outer edge of the wifi range, so Skype video was intermittent.  I had to bring our router out near our front door.  Also, the terrain of our terrace (where the Hornets were located) was not flat Pergo.  It was a pretty severe hill and covered in bark. 

We all ran into my Subaru and closed all the doors.  Tenille who had been shaking her head at us, also ran into the car because at the end of the day, who doesn’t want to see a robot destroy a Hornet’s nest?

The angle of the hill made the lego robot off balance.  I wanted to get it as close as possible to the Hornet’s nest, so that it could just roll up to the nest and do it’s business.  As I approached the nest in my camouflage, I noticed the size of the hornets.  They were enormous!  It did make me pause to think if agitating a nest full of hornets while my family was trapped in my Subaru was a wise activity.  The show must go on.  I placed the robot as close as I dared in front of the nest and ran down to the safety of my car.

In mission control, we did a quick check.  Skype video was on.  (CHECK!) We could see the Hornet’s nest through the video.  Robot was responding.  (CHECK!) 

Caleb used Tenille’s phone to make the robot approach the Hornet’s nest.  

Unfortunately, the terrain was too difficult for the robot.  We anticipated that the terrain would be difficult and used a drive that we thought would be most effective – tank treads.  However, the combination of the incline and the bark made the treads slip.  And as the bark slid underneath the treads, the robot started swaying back and forth. 

Because the robot has a long moment arm (to hold the camera and nest killer), the swaying was not a trivial problem.  The robot eventually fell over to the side.

I ran back up to the robot and put it back upright.  I tried to put it even closer to the nest.  Those hornets were huge.  I ran back down to the car. 

Attempt #2!  The robot got a little closer, but this attempt ended like the first one.  The terrain was just too much for the robot.  And now there was the robot and my phone lying VERY close to the hornet’s nest.  It was time to abort the mission and go to Plan B.  What I did not anticipate was that I would have to go on a rescue mission to get my phone and the robot back. 

I ran back up to the terrace and slowly inched toward the nest.  The hornets were going in and out of the nest 2 or 3 at a time.  After some more testing, we decided we had to spray.  The robot was not traversing over the terrain.

We used the robot as an observation station. Then, I dumped an entire can of hornet spray on the nest.  It was somewhat satisfying to see the mass of Hornet’s buzz out of their nest in panic, but not as satisfying as seeing the Hornets’ face through Skype as we destroyed their home with a home-made robot…  Either way, the message was sent.  Don’t sting Andrew anymore.

San Diego Trip

On our San Diego trip, we re-visited some of our old favorites and tried some new things.

First we went to Sea World. 

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We saw some Flamingos.

 

 

 

 

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Caleb and I sat in the (Splash zone) of the Shamu show.  The Whales did not disappoint. 

 

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Then, we went to the San Diego Zoo for the first time.

 

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A quick photo opp at the Seal exhibit.

 

 

 

 

This is probably the closest that Caleb will come to some of these animals and live to tell about it.

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Polar Bear

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Jaguar

 

 

 

 

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Gharial

 

 

 

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Hippopotamus:  Africa’s #1 killer of humans.

 

 

 

 

 

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Tigers

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Then we went out to the Safari Park.

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The Southern White Rhinoceros

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Bats!  The first time we’ve seen them in lighted conditions so that we could take good pictures of them.

 

 

 

 

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We also got to pet some goats.

 

 

 

 

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Don and Mom’s silly face look exactly like their normal face…

 

 

One of my favorite stops was at the Mormon Battalion Memorial:

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They did an excellent job retelling the story of the Mormon pioneers that were recruited by the Federal military to go on one of the longest marches in U.S. military history. 

 

 

 

 

 

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We also stopped by the beautiful San Diego LDS temple.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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On the last day, we also got to see the Aircraft Carrier USS Midway.  Amazing to see such an enormous man-made machine that takes thousands of people to operate. 

 

 

 

 

 

20151012_131136It has about a 3.5M gallon fuel capacity and burns approximately 100,000 gallons of fuel per day.  They had to refuel every few weeks because they don’t like it past 1/2 empty.  The nuclear carriers now only have to refueled every 25 years.

 

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Right across from the Midway is the Kiss statue.

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Carpool from Federal Way to Bellevue

If you are carpooling from Federal Way to Bellevue, I feel your pain.  I did not get the vanpool set up that I wanted, but I did find a work buddy to carpool with and have been carpooling for almost a year.  Currently, the arrangement is that my buddy will drive, and I pay $5/day every day that I carpool.  I get to do some work on my laptop and get another 1-1.5 hours of work in every day during my commute.  We meet at 8am and get in to work between 8:30-9am.  We leave some time between 4:30-5pm depending on when we got in to work.

We are open to taking on other drivers or passengers.  Feel free to leave a comment if your route fits with ours.

We go from the Redondo Heights Park and Ride to the Bellevue Community College Park and Ride.

 

Carpool Federal Way to Bellevue
Carpool Federal Way to Bellevue

Quite a few people have contacted me about carpools, but unfortunately our hours and/or routes did not match.  If you are commuting from Federal Way to Bellevue and looking for a carpool/vanpool match up, feel free to leave your contact info in the comments and  hopefully someone will match up with you.

Perhaps one day if there is enough people carpooling,  we can achieve our dream of putting together the wifi vanpool.  🙂